Warmer Days Ahead

Well, after three full weeks of the Duffys being sick, I think we have finally turned a corner. It was a rough three weeks, y’all. I thought I was going to loose my marbles. I’m pretty sure I spent more time in the Dr.’s office than I did at work this past month. February is a complete blur. I apologize for not getting a meal plan out last week but I was sick as a dog and didn’t move for days. So….let’s see. What should we chat about? Oh, I know. I started cracking up the other day, thinking about horrid tan lines, so let’s talk weather. Spring is trying to “spring itself” here in Charleston but mother nature has thrown us a bit of a curve ball. This time of year is so funny. It will be consistently cool and then all of a sudden we will have two or three really warm days and everyone, I mean everyone, pulls out their shorts, t-shirts and Rainbow flip-flops. A few weeks ago, the high was around 70 so I took the girls, and Clare, to the beach. We were in long sleeve tee’s, pants and I think I had on a fleece. Y’all, everyone else on the beach was in a bathing suit. It was so comical because you know they had to be freezing. I was cold in layers. But, the weather guy said it was going to be above 68 so to the beach, to sun, they went. I can’t blame them. I crave the sun too. Our family gets so excited about this local festival, hosted by the James Island County Park, at the beginning of April. This is where the tan lines come in. Everyone always assumes it’s going to be warm, and it usually is, so they dress in their Charleston uniform – shorts, tank and Rainbow flips – but we totally forget to pack the sunscreen. Happens, without fail, every single year. It’s like our brains haven’t fully accepted it’s warm enough to burn. But burn we do. Everyone wakes up the next day with goggles around their eyes, thick tank straps on their shoulders and super straight tan lines right around mid-thigh. It’s awful and hilarious. Happens every year. I love it. How many more days until spring?

Meal Plan For the Week of 3/10

Sunday, March 10th – Chicken Alfredo Baked Ziti – The St. Paddy’s Day festivities start early in our family. Like on this day. Patrick will be at a golf tournament all day long. I think it might just possibly be the longest golf tournament in the history of golf tournaments. So, I will make this yummy, comforting dish, for the Duffy girls and leave the leftovers on the stove for P. I think he gets fed at the tournament but Patrick is always hungry – yet he never gains a pound. Go figure.

Monday, March 11th – Sausage Taco Cauliflower Rice Skillet – I know – so many cauli rice recipes. Funny thing is I’m not a HUGE fan. I mean, I like it but I don’t LOVE it. As long as the other flavors dominate the dish I’m OK. And they do in this recipe. The sausage and taco seasoning are so powerful that you barely notice the cauli rice. Honest!!

Tuesday, March 12th – Mustard Chicken with Skillet Zucchini – Normally I can’t stand the thought of just chicken and a veg on a plate. It makes me a bit ill BUT not tonight. The marinade for this chicken is to die for. Recipe calls for you to grill the chicken but I’ll just cook mine in a pan. Oh, and the balsamic zucchini – so bloody good. If you don’t have time to make the balsamic glaze, you can just buy a bottle of it from the grocery store. Try to marinate the chicken overnight if you can fine the time!!

Wednesday, March 13th – Coconut Lime Chicken – I love coconut milk. Lord, it makes everything taste so good. This recipe calls for full fat coconut milk but I will sub light. Not as flavorful but that full fat coco milk is super high in calories. You do you. Pair with basmati, cauli or brown rice!

Thursday, March 14th – 10 Minute Pizza Zucchini Noodles – Call me crazy but this looks so good. When I was a kid, my Uncle Robert used to make homemade pizzas for us every Friday night. The best part was he would let us eat the extra pepperonis while he was making the pizzas. I could eat an entire package of pepperonis if you placed one in front of me. This recipe looks like a better option – since I’m trying to eat healthy and all.

Friday, March 15th – Shrimp, Smoked Sausage and Peppers – This is an instant pot recipe but you can totally adapt it to just be a one pot wonder. I will sauté the veggies and shrimp and then add the tomatoes – I will not add water if I do this on the stove. Healthy, quick and delicious!

I am reviewing a really cool product this week, Beeswax Food Wraps. I can’t wait to try them and let y’all know what I think. Stay tuned. In the meantime, I hope everyone has a wonderful St. Patrick’s Day!!! Here’s wishing that your heart be full of love and your life be blessed with good fortune, always. Slainte!

XO ~ Kelly D.


One Fine Day….

Well, I thought we had turned a corner last week but no such luck. Regan came down with the flu on Tuesday – she literally came down with the flu. Fainted in school and all. She’s fine, thank goodness, but my plan to get back on track has been pushed to God knows when. Taking care of children is exhausting but taking care of sick children is a whole different ball game. I’ve learned, this week, that I am not a natural caregiver. #OVERIT. I think I’ve cooked twice this week – twice. Exercise – two and a half times. I started yesterday, got distracted, and totally forgot to go back to my video. I’m so ready to get back into our routine. I need the structure. I really need the structure. If you follow along you know aside from the flu infestation at 111 Duffy Lane, I had other big life happenings this week. Huge happenings, actually. After what I thought was a shut adoption book, I made contact with BOTH biological parents. In the same week. To say I’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster is a bit of an understatement. This is how it all went down………
My search angel ( now more like a family member), Daniel, messaged me last Tuesday saying he had located my biological father. I was beyond shocked. I did a little digging and turned up nothing. There was one individual on Facebook who seemed like she could be related to bio dad so I bit the bullet and private messaged her. A day went by and nothing. But, then on Thursday I had an email from one bio dad. Y’all he had no clue about my existence. It was crazy, but long story short, he is very kind and excited to learn more about me and my family.  After connecting with him, I felt like I had to exhaust all of my options and decided to call my biological mother.  Well, that’s not entirely true. I asked my best friend, who had done a little PI work on her own and found out where bio mom worked, to call her. I know, we are crazy – it’s why we are friends.  So, my friend called her.  At work.  And tried her hardest not to give away every detail as to why she was calling, but in the end, she was forced to reveal the real reason she had picked up the phone.  And guess what, the biological mom had never received any of my communication attempts. She had no idea I was trying to connect with her.  Quick lesson here folks – never assume anything.  I was truly functioning, and making decisions, under the idea that she had received and made a choice not to connect. I was wrong.  Life is so surprising.  You just never know what tomorrow will bring.  Two weeks ago I had no medical information, no family history, nada.  Today, I know medical history, the missing pieces of my adoption story and have multiple blood relatives that I never knew existed.  But here is the important part, especially for my fellow adoptees – it doesn’t change anything.  I am still Kelly Regan Duffy, the daughter of Patty and Steve.  The wife of Patrick and the mom of Regan and Ava.  I’m still only 5’1. I still love to cook, eat, drink and be merry. I’m still a very Irish Catholic Charlestonian. I still have the most incredible family and friends in the entire universe.  I’m still the luckiest girl in the world. Now I just have more people to share it all with. And that is truly the lens thru which I see all of this.  Will I get to meet this lovely family with whom I share DNA? I don’t know.  It’s still really early and there are many moving parts. But I think I would like that very much. We shall see.  One day….

Meal Plan for the week of 2/24

Photo Cred ~ Ashley Bakery

Sunday, Feb. 24th – “Fat Sunday” Celebration! We are doing a neighborhood “Fat Sunday” celebration this weekend so I will not be cooking dinner. Instead, I called my favorite, Ashley Bakery, and ordered a King Cake.  I’m hoping the rest of my neighbors are making something really delicious because they are on tap to feed the Duffy’s dinner.  I warned them but they may, or may not, have taken me seriously. So, we may just be eating cake.  IF I was cooking, I would definitely be making my favorite Slow Cooker Jambalaya. ( Make sure to test rice before you turn off crocker – it may need more time!)

Monday, Feb. 25th – Spicy Zucchini Cauliflower Rice – Not exactly family friendly but I have GOT to get my bum back in gear.  I am going on the assumption that everyone in my house will be healthy come Monday so I will be back to my routine, ready to cook, eat healthy and TAM! (Tracy Anderson, y’all. My exercise of choice) Don’t forget to purchase the frozen cauli rice! Oh, and I WILL add chicken, chicken sausage or flank steak to this recipe to beef it up. Pun intended.

Tuesday, Feb. 26th – Lemon Thyme Grilled Salmon – Again, purchase frozen cauli rice here. Will save you some much time and effort. Once you have microwaved your rice, add some fresh lemon juice and thyme to give it some additional flavor. Just a straight forward, healthy dish here, y’all. Oh, with avocado – if you want. I always want.

Wednesday, Feb. 27th – Teriyaki Chicken Bake – Super family friendly to make up for the spicy Monday meal. Feel free to sub out veggies and use what you have on hand – peppers, asparagus. Get crazy!

Thursday, Feb. 28th – Blackened Chicken with Cilantro Lime Quinoa – Pretty straight forward blackened chicken recipe but the cilantro lime “crema” takes it to a whole new level! You can sub cauli rice for the quinoa or just serve with a veg or side salad.

Friday, MARCH 1st – Spicy Thai Chicken and Quinoa – Sorry for the quinoa overload this week. Just happened that way. It’s March y’all. MARCH. I’m so excited because we get to kick winter to the curb and bring on the spring. I hate the winter. Plus, spring in Charleston is just so good. Flavorful dish here people. Again, sorry for the spice. You can back down on the chili sauce if you need to.

Happy, Healthy Eating Friends! Remember to follow along on Instagram – dinnerwiththeduffys!!!

XO – Kelly D.


Don’t Stop Believing

I’m so sorry friends. This week has been bananas. Ava had the flu, and a crazy high fever, up until Thursday so juggling work and illness proved to be exhausting. And there were other things. Actually, some pretty unbelievable things. I don’t have enough time to go into all of the details but I promise I will next week. Long story, very short, I have made contact with BOTH biological parents – this week. I have spoken to one and have emailed with the other. It’s insane as I truly had found peace in only every knowing what Daniel had found – which was so much more than I ever expected. I had packed up my emotions into a very neat suitcase and that was that. Or so I thought. Life is funny, y’all. As I said, I promise to share more of the details next week but time will not permit today. Just wanted to make sure you had your meal plan before Sunday Shopping!!

Stay Tuned!!

Sunday, Feb 17th – Chicken Wild Rice Cass – Not to get sappy but I can’t let this post pass without mentioning this Sunday is my Dad’s birthday. As you know, my Dad passed away almost four years ago. He was my person, y’all. I miss him every single day but truly believe he is now at peace. This Sunday I am making this comforting chicken and rice dish in his honor – we will gather around the table to eat, drink and be merry and toast to the best, my Daddy-O!

Monday, Feb 18th – Strawberry, Basil Chicken – My plan to be uber healthy last week didn’t exactly pan out. I HAVE to reign myself in this week people. This really light, chicken dish will help. You can add fresh mozzarella to this dish too – beef it up!

Tuesday, Feb 19th – Broccoli, Lemon and Browned Butter Pasta – A friend shared this Cooking Light recipe with me and it looks delicious. If you can’t find whole grained shell pasta, just sub any other whole grain pasta. Family friendly here, y’all.

Wednesday, Feb. 20th – Crockpot Carnitas with Pork Tenderloin – It’s been awhile since I pulled out my crocker but so happy to be doing so this week. There are a gazillion of these recipes but this one looks a little different so we will give it a try! Instant Pot will work here too! Note to self – still need to purchase one of those….

Thursday, Feb. 21st – Korean-Style Pork Chops – I need to hit up Costco this weekend mainly because I found this recipe and now I am dying to make it. I will probably just do some frozen veggies or some kind of quick veg with these!! Yum.

Friday, Feb 22nd – Chicken and Artichoke Quinoa Cass – I love artichokes – they add such a yummy, tangy flavor. Use a rotisserie chick with this dish to make it even easier. Perfect for a Friday!!!

That’s it! Can’t wait to chat next week. Happy, Healthy Eating Friends!

XO ~ Kelly D.


A Few of My Favorite Things

Happy Friday Y’all.  We made it! I have been looking forward to this day for what feels like an eternity. My HUGE work event is finally behind me and was, by all accounts, a great success.  I actually took off today to do, well, nothing.  I thought about going a number of places but eventually decided to do a few things around the house, exercise and then sit on my back porch and read.  We have had the most unbelievable weather in Charleston this week. Today it’s going to be 76 degrees. 76 in February. I’m in heaven.  I had planned on doing this great tag team post, with a local Charleston company, but we haven’t had a chance to meet up SO, I decided to blog about some random products that I’m LOVING lately and quite honestly, not sure how I lived without. Some have to do with food, and some don’t but they are ALL fabulous!

PDiddy and I usually give each other one gift, from Santa, at Christmas. This year Santa brought us this gorgeous @All-Clad Non-Stick all in one pan and I’m in love. I may give more care to this pan than I do my children – no judgement. It’s not an inexpensive purchase but if you enjoy cooking, it’s so worth it. One of the keys to cooking is to make sure you NEVER overcrowd your pan. NEVER. This beauty is big enough to handle any dish! P.S. – thanks @Williams-Sonoma Charleston for your help! P.P.S. – it’s HALF OFF right now. Click HERE

My name is Kelly and I have oily, acne prone skin. I have dealt with skin issues since I was in middle school. As I age, I have to fight controlling the break-outs with anti-aging and it’s not a party people. But, thankfully brilliant folks are creating brilliant products that combat both! Like this Green Cure Mask. One of my favorite peeps, Brittany @ Gwynns, turned me onto this CBD line a few weeks ago. This mask calms, clarifies, evens and improves the skin. I LOVE it. Not too pricey either. Perfect for any skin type! Go see Brittany and check out the entire Lab to Beauty line!

Every now and then I get obsessed with a new product and it’s all I can talk, and think about. The @Toadfish Shrimp Cleaner is one of those. The genius dudes behind Toadfish are well, genius. This little tool allows you to peel, devein, and butterfly your shrimp in one single movement. Obsessed.

Meal Plan for the week of 2/10/19

Sunday, February 10th – Cajun Shrimp Casserole – Pull out your @toadfish shrimp cleaner people, you are going to need it for this beauty. One of my all time favorite casseroles. I’m not quite sure there are words for how much I love this recipe. Not healthy but SO worth it. The flavors are binge worthy.

Monday February 11th – Healthy One Pan, Baked, Smothered Chicken – You had me at “one pan” but then you had me again at “smothered”. I’m pretty sure I would make anything that had “smothered” in the title, regardless of what is was smothered in. Lots of veggies in this one. Serve with cauli, brown or white rice.

Tuesday, February 12th – Green Curry Salmon – Super healthy, delicious and quick recipe from @themodernproper. The salmon cooks in the curry, in the oven, so technically it’s a one pan wonder. Serve with cauli rice! (remember to buy it frozen)

Wednesday, February 13th – Tuna, White Bean Salad – Sorry, not sorry, for the seafood heavy week! Dump, mix and pour – that’s about the extent of it for this one, y’all. I may even have my 10 year old make this for me. I’ll probably have some cooked chicken on hand, for Patrick, if he feels the need to bulk his up. I’m excited because it’s super easy and light, perfect for mid week.

Thursday, February 14th – Chimichurri Steak with Asparagus – Happy Valentine’s Day lovers!! I know some of you will not be home to cook this evening but here is a fabulous steak recipe just in case. Patrick and I most always stay in for V-Day. We celebrate with the kids and cook a delicious meal. But this year we are heading out. One of my favorite bands is playing in Charleston, Taj Mahal, and I can’t wait! If they were not playing, I’d be home, eating this delicious steak, in my pjs. You can use whatever cut of beef you like!

Friday, February 15th – One Pot Jambalaya – I’m excited to try out this recipe as the creator, @ThymeandJoy, is from Charleston. She is a whole30 partner and all of what she makes looks delicious. Can’t wait to test this one!

There you have it. I told you eating healthy can be tasty. You just have to follow me for the goods!! As long as you are following, follow along on Instagram @dinnerwiththeduffys for night of tips & tricks.

Happy, Healthy Eating Friends!

XO ~ Kelly


Out of Time

Well, unlike the past few posts, this weeks will be short and sweet. I have a HUGE work event this weekend and ALL of my focus needs to live there. I feel like the Super bowl is a party planned just for me for surviving this event. I guess I must survive first. Note to self : survive. Got it. I almost decided to just can this weeks post but then I realized I would have nothing to eat next week. My lunch choices for today showed me this is not an option. Left to my own devices, i.e., no meal plan, I eat like a mad woman. Today’s lunch – chicken sausage, ice cream with chocolate sauce, tortilla chips, salsa and potato chips. No lie. And not in that order. So, here’s the meal plan for the week of 2/3!!!

Photo Cred to my food blogger favorite @The Modern Proper

Sunday 2/3 – Sausage, Parmesan Cream Cheese Soup – Most peeps will be eating appetizers with friends and family so I get this might be a waste. We will definitely spend some time hanging out with friends, but I will make my way back home in time to eat this delicious soup. It’s basically rotel dip in soup form, but so much better than I just made it sound.

Monday 2/4 – Apple Crunch Salad with Rotisserie Chicken – I need a serious re-set y’all. I meant to do this in January but then January got really crazy and I kind of forgot. I’m hoping life calms down and I can refocus. Thinking this easy, healthy, salad will steer me in the right direction. Top with whatever you want – I prefer less work, hence the rotisserie chicken.

Tuesday 2/5 – Quinoa and Black Beans – Healthy, cheap and quick. I mean, come on y’all. This ones a beaut.

Wednesday 2/6 – Fish Florentine – I have been craving white fish ever since I ate that delicious dill fish we made the other night. Great day that was easy and good. If you haven’t made it, make it. So, here’s the thing. I love fresh spinach, but not a huge fan of wilted spinach. I don’t like cooked lettuce. BUT, with the half and half, cream cheese etc. for 351 calories, I think I’ll survive.

Thursday 2/7 – Creamy Sausage Tomato Basil Spaghetti Squash – Stay with me – don’t roll your eyes. I have not made this recipe BUT, it looks tasty and pretty easy BECAUSE we will use frozen, spiralized, spaghetti squash. Just thaw the squash the day of – leave it on your counter. No need to roast and scrape. The reviews are great so let’s give it a try!!

Friday 2/8 – Green Chicken Enchilada Soup – You are gonna need TWO rotisseries this week! This makes me happy. REMEMBER – pick your chicks while they are warm. SO MUCH EASIER. I kick myself when I wait to pick those things. Not a crock pot. Just a simmer soup. Perfect for a February Friday.

I need to apologize to the kind follower who I met last Saturday night. It was loud, I couldn’t hear and I had been dancing for God knows how long. BUT, thank you for coming up to me and thank you for following along. I think I told you but you made my year!!!!

Happy, Healthy Eating Friends!

XO ~ Kelly D.


No Regrets


Hey y’all.  I want to take a quick second to thank all of you for your heartfelt messages, emails and comments.  They mean so much to me.  I am overwhelmed by the number of adoptees who, because of my post, are reaching out to Search Angels.  I hope you find as much success, and comfort, as I have.  So, where did I leave off?  Oh yes. Last week, Daniel had begun unraveling my genealogy in hopes of finding my biological mother.  Well, are you ready?  He found her.  Truth be told, Daniel was pretty sure he had found her ten hours after he started my search.  TEN HOURS.  I mean, it’s unreal.  Answers to questions I had been mulling over for thirty seven years came to him in ten hours.  It’s still hard to believe.  Here are the specifics. Last week I received a text message from Daniel stating he was pretty sure he had found my biological mother but needed to do a little more research.  Thirty minutes later, he texted he was sure.  I was without words, and for those who know me, I am never without words.  My first question was, “Does she seem normal?” Daniel ( God love him, he already needs to pray for patience after dealing with me for ten hours) responded that she was alive and all signs pointed to stable. To tell you the truth, I was unbelievably calm.  I think it was just so surreal that I couldn’t quite wrap my brain around the whole thing.  Daniel asked if he could call me the following evening, so, for the next 20 hours, I was in a holding pattern.  I started to get extremely nervous about an hour before Daniel was set to call me.  Thank God my neighbors are my friends and allowed me to babble for 45 minutes straight.  I was about to receive information that would change my life, good or bad, forever.  My phone rang, and Daniel asked if I was ready.  First, he emailed me a copy of my grandfather’s obituary. Next, a picture of my biological mother’s engagement announcement.  When I opened the second email, I could not believe my eyes.  I felt as though I was looking at a picture of myself, minus the 80’s hair.  Words do not exist to describe such a moment. When you have spent your entire life wondering where your nose, eyes, chin, mouth – every single feature – comes from, and then, in one second, all of your questions are answered.  It’s earth-shattering.   From there, Daniel sent me my entire maternal family tree, dating back to 1742. He built my entire maternal family tree.  This stranger spent days searching for my relatives, just to give me something.  He has no idea what he has done, not just for me, but for my children and their children and their children’s children. There is so much more that transpired, but I know what you are waiting for.  Did I reach out and connect with her?  Well, yes and no.  I tried but no response thus far.  Everyone keeps telling me all of the rational things – she may not have received my messages or she may no longer have that address or she needs more time.  All of these are plausible and could certainly be true.  I’d be lying if I didn’t say some part of me believed as soon as I hit “send,” my phone would start ringing, and she would be on the other end of the line.  But, it didn’t, and that’s OK.  Just like with any other let down in life, I have to find the good in the situation.  And you know what, I don’t have to look far.  I am so blessed by all that Daniel has uncovered. I have names, pictures and stories.  Pieces of information I never thought I would have. But most importantly, I was given the opportunity to thank her.  To let her know she can be at peace knowing she made the right decision all of those years ago. So no, I don’t have any regrets about hitting “send” back in October.  It’s been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster but worth every single moment.  Adoption is the most incredible gift a human can give, in my humble opinion.  It is not something that happened to me, but something that happened for me.  I am the luckiest woman in the entire world, and I am more empowered than ever to try and not waste a single second of this unbelievable life an unbelievably strong woman gifted to me thirty seven years ago.  If anything changes, I will certainly let y’all know. Now, to the yummy stuff!

Meal Plan for the Week of 1/27/19

Photo Cred ~ Blue Apron

Sunday, January 27th – Spiced Shrimp and Pearl Cousous – I adore pearl couscous. It’s one of my favorite foods. Not quite sure why, but I just really love it. I will not have verjus rouge but no doubt will have some kind of red wine on hand to sub instead!!!

Monday, January 28th – Sriracha Tuna Salad Wrap – If I survive this week I will be pleasantly surprised. The girls have a performance this evening so I will have zero minutes to cook. My plan is to throw this super easy tuna salad recipe together Sunday so all I have to do is throw it in a wrap, or on top of lettuce, when we get home. Feel free to double if more than two are eating:

1 can of tuna, 2 tablespoons greek yogurt or mayo, 1 tsp of soy, 2 tsp sriracha (or more depending on your heat meter). Mix it all together and that’s all she wrote. I will top mine with avocado because everything is better with avo.

Tuesday, January 29th – Lemon & Dill Baked Cod – I have a HUGE work event on Saturday so I need really easy recipes. This one is just that and obviously healthy to boot. Feel free to sub any white, flaky, fish!

Wednesday, January 30th – One Pan Sausage, Potato & Asparagus Bake – Super straight forward, family friendly option y’all. You can use green beans if you don’t like asparagus – honestly, you can do you in this dish. I love the idea of sausage, potatoes and asparagus so I’ll keep mine as is.

Thursday, January 31st – Roast Pork Tenderloin with Green Beans – This is a spice rubbed tenderloin, which can be hit or miss, but I really enjoy the flavors in this one. Even better that you don’t have to marinate the thing. I always forget to marinate.

Friday, February 1st – Super Easy Stir-Fry – I will sub chicken for the turkey breast peeps. I have my Costco chicken in my freezer so no sense buying something I don’t need. Love a good stir-fry!! Is it seriously February?

Happy, Healthy Eating Friends!

XO ~ Kelly D.


Search Angel

Hi everyone. SO, when I sat down to write this week’s post, a few days ago, it was going to be all about my frustration with the summer camp process. Well, summer in general. But then something really unbelievable happened and I can’t imagine not sharing it. It’s a bit personal but what the hell. It’s just me and my computer screen, right? For those of you who are not my lifelong besties, you would have no reason to know I’m adopted. Yep, I’m adopted. I was adopted when I was something like a day old so basically from birth. Mine is a really interesting story, involving a huge LSU football fan, but it’s a little long. Another story for another time. Any who, so I’m adopted and have always been so incredibly grateful to the stranger who decided to give me a chance. Seems so insignificant, saying it that way, when in actuality it’s the most precious gift. Life. Can’t imagine anything topping that one. I have only ever felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude to this selfless human being who made the ultimate sacrifice to give me a shot. How powerful is that? Gets me every time.
So, rewind to October. My hair dresser was talking to me about how she helped a friend find her biological family and referenced this group, Search Angels. What is “Search Angels” you ask? Well they are a non-profit organization that helps you unravel your DNA testing results if you’ve done an Ancestry or a 23 and me. Side note – if you are looking for your biological family, this is the best place to start. Only, it’s not as simple as sending in your spit. I did the Ancestry test two years ago, learned a lot about my ancestors place of origin and had a cousin contact me, but that was as far as I got. BUT, that was then. Wait, let me back up just a wee bit. SO, hairdresser tells me about Search Angels and I think, why not? It’s free. So, I sat down and filled out the form. But then I started to second guess this whole thing. If I send in this email I am opening Pandora’s Box, plain and simple. I am putting myself out there to accept all the things, good and bad, that could come with finding out the answers. I’ve always struggled with this. Do I really want to know? Will it change me? What if they are horrible people? What if they say “no” and on and on and on. But, I had a pep talk, with myself, singing my favorite song lyrics ever, “I am brave, I am bruised, I am who I’m meant to be. This is me.” I can do this. I’m strong enough to survive whatever answers, or lack there of, come my way. I am not only me because of my DNA. I am me because of my parents, my aunts, uncles, cousins and Lord knows, my friends. Nothing can change who I am. So, I hit send. It was the most terrifying moment of my life. Honest to God. Until my search angel was assigned to me two days ago. Then things got real, crazy fast. Y’all, in less than three hours he had already uncovered great grandparents, and great great grandparents. Information just started flowing. There are no words to describe the power of a name. Just one family name. It literally took me down. I ugly cried in my car for what felt like an hour. And this wasn’t even necessarily the name, name, but it was the name of a person who shares my blood. There I go again. Waterworks. Daniel, my incredible Search Angel is on to something. He and Ancestry are building out my family tree and I know in my gut he’s going to find even more. I think next week is going to be huge. The only thing Daniel, my for real angel, asked of me was to pay it forward. Part of me feels like by sharing my story, I am honoring his request. If one person finds comfort or encouragement from this post then I’ve done my job. Being adopted is the greatest gift but it can be a lonely one at times. I hope putting this out into the blogosphere helps at least one person. Feel free to reach out to me. I’d love to hear from you!

P.S. My childhood best friends have been on this journey with me since I can remember. I want to thank them, here, for loving me so deeply and truly. They are ready to jump on the next plan, to God knows where, just to be present if/when there is ever a meeting. If I had one wish in life it would be for every single person to have this same family of friends. They are unstoppable. Thank you Boones Farm.

It’s hard to go from adoption to food but I know it’s what you are really here for!! So, meal plan for the week of 1/20!

Sunday, January 20th – ONE POT Italian Chicken and Orzo – ONE POT. ORZO. PESTO. CHEESE. Do I need to say anything else? Oh, yes. Purchase a good loaf of bread. That is all.

Monday, January 21st – Veggie Packed Hamburger Soup – It’s supposed to be bananas cold here on Monday. Like in the 30’s which is ridiculous for Charleston. I’m making this delicious Whole 30 soup and I’m going to park my tush in front of the fire.

Tuesday, January 22nd – Sizzlin Spicy Szechaun Stir-Fry – I have three flank steaks in my freezer from Costco that I totally forgot about so I’m putting those babies to use. This a gussied up stir fry but loaded with yummy flavors. You can purchase the szechaun sauce, or make it from the recipe!

Wednesday, January 23rd – Classic Egg Salad – I’ve shared a number of egg salad recipes and this is a favorite of mine. This Skinnytaste dish calls for mayo and not greek yogurt but feel free to sub if you prefer greek yogurt. I may do a slice of sourdough with mine, depending on what else I’ve inhaled this day!!

Thursday, January 24th – Taco Salad – This is similar to some others but it’s hard to pass these up. Flavorful, healthy, filling and low calorie. Checks all of the boxes. And it’s family friendly!

Friday, January 25th – Greek Chicken Bake – A one pan’er here y’all. I love a sheet dinner. And this one is full of veggies and goodness. Except I will not eat the olives. I do not do olives. Feel free to add artichokes if you are feeling silly!!

Happy Healthy Eating Friends!

XO ~ Kelly


Hello Newbies!

It’s Thursday, y’all. One more day.  One. I believe I can make it but I’m not 100% certain. I’m exhausted. I must have some kind of deficiency because I sleep for eight + hours a night.  Eight.  Some nights more.  It is not rare for me to be in bed by 8:45 and asleep by 9 but when my alarm goes off, 8.5 hours later, I can barely get out of bed.  Well, Sunday – Friday that is.  Come Saturday morning my lids pop open like champagne corks and then my eyes start darting around like laser beams.  And then my brain takes off:

“Laundry? Activities today? Groceries? I’m hungry. What should I eat? Have the girls eaten? Coffee. Dog needs to go out.  What should I cook for dinner? Exercise? Is it cold? Sunny? Do I have food for lunch? What day is it?”

Its bananas.  I try my hardest to shut it down but it’s no use.  If only my brain would function this way during the week. Can you imagine what I would accomplish? Eyelids open, brain moving at the speed of sound, jumping out of bed to do all of the things and crushing it. But alas, not my life. Not sure when my brain got the signals mixed up but if one of you has a solution, hit me up.  The funny thing is, my husband doesn’t seem to share my week/weekend sleep issues.  Don’t get me wrong, he struggles to get out of bed, during the week, just as much as I do but come the weekend his brain doesn’t switch from comatose to firecracker.  Nope.  He just sleeps, and sleeps and sleeps. At 11 AM last weekend I was literally vacuuming in the same room he was sleeping in and he never woke up.  Didn’t even roll over.  I had to put my hand on his chest to see if he was breathing.  He was.  No words.  If one of my girls sneezes, in the middle of the night, I sit straight up as if a UFO has just crash landed into my living room. Patrick, out like a light. Mars and Venus I tell ya.  And it’s not just the sleep thing.  Have you ever noticed how your husband/significant other, if he/she is a sports fan, can recall the first and last name of every single player that has ever played the sport going back to the inception of said sport? My husband knows the full name, height, weight, eye color and hobbies of every single person who has ever played Clemson football.  Ever.  He can sit there and rattle off useless information for hours on end.  BUT, when I ask him to grab milk and bread from the grocery store he tells me he needs to make a list?  What is that? Sports information goes into his brain, gets processed and filed neatly away.  Things to be done as told from his wife don’t make it down the ear canal. Sigh.  It’s a good thing he’s cute.

I’d like to say a quick “welcome” to all the new DwtD followers. There are so many of you since the 1st of the year. Thank you for following along. I have made a few adjustments, to the site, that I hope will help everyone. The weekly meal plan will be posted, same as always, under “blog” but I’ve organized past recipes by main ingredient. I hope this will make it easier to go back and find one of your favorites. It’s not perfect, or pretty, and I hope to add pics and make it even more flawless at some point. When Dinner with the Duffys really takes off, and I’m solely focused on this endeavor, I will create a much prettier site but until then, I think this will suffice.  Keep sharing and our dreams will come true y’all!! P.S – To those of you are new, go back and read my first post. So much of my meal planning success has to do with Harris Teeter Home Shop.

Meal Plan for the Week of 1/13/19

Sunday, January 13th – Baked Chicken Quesadillas – You all know I have a love affair with @themodernproper so it’s no surprise I use their recipes whenever I can. This is the perfect cheat Sunday meal because it’s really adaptable and super easy to whip together. I plan on being super lazy this Sunday so this dish will fit right in. Plus, Ava LOVES guac, as do I, so any excuse to make the fresh stuff is good with me. Love this Guacamole recipe.

Monday, January 14th Cauliflower Rice Chicken Biryani – Apologies if you are screaming “enough with the cauli rice already” but I’m kind of addicted at the moment. I have been noticing more of a cauli taste recently but I keep eating it. The key is to make sure you really incorporate the flavors, of whatever you are cooking, into the “rice.” If you are way over it, just sub your fav. It’s been a while since I’ve made an Indian dish so I’m craving the flavors!!

Tuesday, January 15thBaked Beef and Cheese Manicotti (Cannelloni) – OK, this will be an experience for all of us. Super easy ingredient list here and it’s pasta for under 450 calories a serving. But, we are going to have to pipe the ricotta into the shells. We can do this and it will not take long. After we’ve completed this task we can all switch out our middle names out to “Martha.”

Wednesday – January 16th – Turkey Burgers with a simple Arugula Salad – I’m going back to basics. Frozen basics that is. I have gotten away from my “easy peasy hump days” so I’m bringing them back . I use Bubba Burger frozen turkey burgers and they are perfect. Incorporating a “down day” makes the week that much easier to survive.

Thursday, January 17th Italian Skillet Chicken with Tomatoes and Mushrooms – I love all the things this dish is made of. Tomatoes, chicken and wine. It doesn’t get any better. Oh wait, it does because it’s only 218 calories a serving. Silly me. You can serve this over cauli rice, orzo…whatever floats your boat!

Friday, January 18th – Creamy Tomato Orzo Soup This may not be everyone’s fav – no hurt feelings if you bypass this guy. I on the other hand get giddy about tomato soup – especially when you serve it with orzo. Low calorie & comforting seems like the perfect combo for a chilly Friday night in!

There you have it. Meal plan for the week of 1/13. Bananas how time flies. PLEASE follow my crazy on Instagram – @dinnerwiththeduffys – for pics and more tips as I cook along with you!

Happy, Healthy Eating Friends.

XO ~ Kelly D


Coming in Hot





As promised, my dinner meal plan for the week of 1/6. I will keep from blabbing since I did that, like three days ago. I’ll save up for Thursday! Trying to stay lean on both fronts this week – financially and calorically. Gotta get back on track. I made a huge Costco run so I’m stocked with all things chicken, pork, steak, & shakes.

Sunday, January 6th – Oven Braised Short Ribs with Mashed Potatoes – Go big or go home people. It’s Sunday and we are gearing up for the first full week back, in almost three weeks, so we need something warm and filling in our bellies. This recipe is everything my family needs to go to bed early and sleep soundly. Plus, Sundays are cheat days.

Monday, January 7th – Taco Chicken Salad – Oh Lord in heaven. Today is the first day back for my kiddos. It’s going to be rough. I will probably cook them something super quick and put them to bed as early as they will allow – 6:30 too early? For the grown-ups, I’m going to make this super simple, low fat, salad. P.S. – GO TIGERS. BEAT BAMA!!!!

  • 2 1/2 cups of chicken – I will use a rotisserie
  • 1 1/2 cups non fat greek yogurt
  • Package of taco seasoning
  • Lettuce – any will do
  • 1/2 cup of red onion, red tomato, red bell pepper
  • Juice of 1/2 lime
  • Cilantro & Green Onion for garnish

Combine greek yogurt with package of taco seasoning. Mix in the chicken and veggies. Squeeze lime, top with cilantro and green onion and you are finished people. I will put mine over lettuce but you do what you do!

Tuesday, January 8th – Sweet Chili Coconut Lime Chicken w/Cauli Rice – I told y’all I liked cauli rice. Big Fan. HUGE. I can not get over how much it does not taste like cauliflower. Best starch substitute I have ever come across. Again, I will buy the frozen, pre-shredded, cauli and let it thaw or nuke it for a bit. Then proceed with instructions.

Wednesday, January 9th – Brown Sugar Spiced Tenderloin with Chimichurri – Yes, this does call for you to put a few ingredients into a blender or food processor but you can do this ahead of time. I will probably pulse mine together, the night of, while the tenderloin is cooking. And, I will sear mine and then bake. I don’t really grill, y’all. Serve this with some asparagus.

Thursday, January 10th – Easy, Grilled Mahi with Avocado and Corn Salsa – Avocado may just be one of my favorite foods but the hubs can’t stand it. Sigh. I will omit the avocado, while mixing together the other ingredients, and add the avocado to my dish before serving. I will also make this in the pan – just cook mahi about three minutes, per side, over medium to high heat! Last thing – I will not be shucking corn, y’all. It’s January. I will use frozen corn and just let it come to room temp or, nuke it! PS – mahi is on sale at the Teeter this week!

Friday, January 11th – Slow Cooker Sausage, Spinach and White Bean Soup – We have an oyster roast to attend this evening so I won’t be cooking. I will make this on Saturday for lunch/dinner. If I was making it, during the week, I would chop everything ahead of time to dump and go Friday AM. Perfect to come home to after the longest week ever!

I promised I would share my Ceasar Salad Fillo Cup Recipe so here goes:

  • 2 boxes of frozen fillo cups
  • 7 oz Romaine lettuce, chopped ( I didn’t use it all but that’s how the kind I like is packaged)
  • 1.5 cups rotisserie chicken finely chopped
  • 8 pieces of bacon chopped
  • 3 tbsp. freshly grated parmesan cheese


Dressing

  • Garlic clove
  • 2 anchovy fillets
  • 2 tbsp fresh lemon juice
  • 1 tsp Dijon mustard
  • 1 tsp Worcestershire sauce
  • 1 cup mayonnaise
  • 1/2 cup freshly grated parmesan cheese
  • 1 – 2 tbsp Whole Milk to drizzle
  • 1/4 tsp Salt
  • 1/8 tsp Black pepper

Bake Fillo cups as directed. Let cool. Cook bacon. I like to bake my bacon in the oven at 375 for around 15 – 18 minutes. Flip halfway. Place all dressing ingredients, minus the milk, into a blender of food processor and pulse until smooth. IF the dressing is too think, splash in a tablespoon or two of milk. Place chicken, bacon and lettuce in a bowl and mix with 8 tablespoons ( or more if you’d like) of dressing. ( Lucky for you, there will be plenty of dressing leftover) Divide the salad, among the fillo cups, sprinkle with fresh parm and serve!

I hope everyone has a fabulous first week back. What am I saying? Just survive people. We can do this.
XO ~ Kelly D.


Lifestyle vs Diethood





Happy New Year, Y’all! I can’t believe the holidays are officially behind us. Lord it goes by fast. This year was especially daunting for my family of four. We had something every single night. EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT. I’m exhausted. It was fun, no doubt, but I’m ready to trade in the social for some peace and quiet at home. My apologies for not meal planning over the past week and a half but really, what’s the point? I can’t tell you the last time I cooked a meal. I’ve made many an appetizer ( my chicken Caesar salad cups are the bomb.com) and plenty of side dishes but when it comes to an actual meal I’m 0 for who knows how many. And that’s A OK – it was fun while it lasted. But y’all, I’m ready for a change. Bring on the meal planning/sharing. It’s time. I know many of you have already started a New Years cleanse, no carb, no dairy, no meat, no food diet and I feel you. Lord knows “my back is aching, my belts too tight and my hips are shaking from left to right” but you won’t find me cutting out anything except alcohol during the dreaded “J” month. I’ve done that before and it never pans out. What does seem to be more sustainable, from my experience, is a calorie awareness and portion control plan. I love food – ALL food – but I’ve learned to eat smarter so I can indulge in all the deliciousness. Being calorie conscientious has made keeping my weight in check that much easier and it’s something I can do forever. I choose a lifestyle over a diet every single time. It’s the whole idea behind Dinner with the Duffys. Cook delicious, yet healthy, family friendly food for a healthier, happier you. Now, I will confess I have not been so great about my portions lately. It’s amazing how quickly the calories can add up, even when you are eating something super healthy. So be aware. I use the My Fitness Pal app ( FREE) and will stick to a certain caloric intake daily in order to get back on track. This effort, in conjunction with exercise, will make a HUGE difference. Exercise…..the dreaded word. I hesitate to bring up exercise as it seems like everyone on the planet has an opinion on what we should be doing. I board the “to each his own” train but I do strongly encourage everyone of you to MOVE daily. I don’t care if you run, walk, bike or hike – just MOVE. Me, I am a Tracy Anderson for lifer – TAM is my JAM – but you do you. Last PSA for the week – if you are a female pick up those weights. Strength Training is something women absolutely need to be doing weekly. Why? A number of reasons but here are the top three:

  1. Preserves Muscle Mass – Muscle mass diminishes with age. If you don’t strength train then the loss of muscle mass gets replaced with fat. Yep, fat. Listening now??
  2. Osteoporosis – Adding weight training (just light weights) can slow bone deterioration and actually help strengthen your bones. Stronger bones = delayed or NO osteoporosis.
  3. Controls Weight – Yep, picking up as little as three pounds helps burn more calories. So grab light hand weights before you walk around your hood. Or, do like my gal pal and strap those ankle weights on to run your errands!

Because of the holidays, I’m all out of whack when it comes to my meal plan. This is what I’m thinking. I will share three recipes for this week and then on Saturday/Sunday I will send out a full meal plan for next week. Not sure I can go out ten days. Maybe by then I will have a New Year’s Resolution. So many to choose from……



Wednesday, January 2nd – Weeknight Healthy Turkey Bolognese – This is kind of like my Sunday y’all. I start back work tomorrow so I need to treat tonight’s dinner like Sunday Supper. I’m a little depressed if I’m being honest. I will be OK once I get thru tomorrow but I’m definitely doom and gloom today. Nothing a good Bolognese won’t fix!!

Thursday, January 3rd Sweet Paprika Chicken and Cauli Bowl – I know, I totally made fun of the cauliflower rice substitute but once I found it in the freezer section, pre-shredded, I became a fan. It’s pretty tasty and so easy to prepare. Definitely buy it frozen. Try it!!

Friday, January 4th – Mediterranean White Chicken Enchiladas – A healthy enchilada dish under 400 calories a serving? Yes please. I will so need this dish come Friday. Everything about this dish screams comfort. I can’t wait.

Short week, I know. I promise to get you a full meal plan for next week before Monday! Oh, and I will share my Caesar app cups too. We can do this people. Just a few more days until the weekend. Let’s rock it!

XO ~ Kelly D.